Bullying Is More Harmful Than We Realize Share Written By Inner Circle Billing Inc Tags 2018-10-30 Ericka S. Benefits Coordinator Inner Circle Billing Services 10/30/2018 October is National Bullying Awareness Month. What some people do not seem to realize is that being bullied is often times the beginning of substance abuse issues. Bullying, according to the dictionary is – use superior strength or influence to intimidate (someone), typically to force him or her to do what one wants. At some point in our lives, we can all remember a time where we were either bullied or being the bully. I was bullied for having giant hot pink bifocals at 8 years old. It was a hard time in my life, being different in a new school. Being bullied didn’t help. My parents told me to stick up for myself, to not allow their behavior to get to me and to feel sorry that they dislike me; for their anger against me is truly a reflection against themselves and not really about me at all. But now with all of this new age technology, there is more bullying going on than what is really being seen. People can sit at home, behind closed doors and bully others via social media. Even in my adult age, I have been bullied. I can only imagine how kids today are being bullied and what is being said. The only difference now is before, words were words, they faded and had no proof as a he said-she said. Now words can be taken with a screenshot and proven. Still, damage is being done. People are constantly compared of – you should look or be like ____. Even me. Even now. And it needs to stop. Here is how one doctor put it – “When young people have experienced bullying or any related trauma, the significant impact that it has in their lives is their developing view of themselves in relation to their view of the world, Dr. Nalin warned. “People who have been bullied, which represents 80 to 85% majority of our clients, view the world as a potentially hostile place that they have to be weary of,” he said. “This generates a tremendous amount of anxiety and self-consciousness, which results in being fearful social interactions.” This can spike the anxiety, eventually create depressive episodes, and more importantly, stop the young person from participating in open, meaningful interactions with peers, Dr. Nalin further emphasized.” Full Article – Bullying Prevention Bullying makes people fall into themselves for comfort because they are now terrified to speak with someone. Some people fall into depression, others may seek substance abuse. In the case of the latter, 72,000 people have died in the last year alone from overdoses laced with fentanyl. People are looking for an escape from trauma and a fix to them, solves the issue. Full Article – Fentanyl In Opioids It greatly saddens me. We need to help people by not looking at them as something like an addict, a nurse, a fireman, a teacher, etc, but as people. We are all human with different stories, all writing our own chapter of the day. Instead of bullying, speaking in a harsh tone, or being cruel, we need to be kind and compassionate. We can speak truth with a warm tone. We can get through the day with a smile on our lips because that one smile might mean something to someone else. One act of kindness, no matter how small or even a few words of encouragement could greatly impact another so much so that it is truly beyond measurable recognition. To those being bullied, please speak up and speak out. You matter as do your feelings. You are loved, cared about and needed in this world with your unique brilliance. To those who have an addiction, I implore you to seek treatment because you matter as well. You are also loved, cared about and needed in this world with your unique brilliance. In conclusion, with the ending of October, and almost the ending of the year, let us all finish 2018 with kindness. No bullying, no judgement for it is not our place. Let us all finish the year as better people than we happened to be yesterday. With love, Ericka S.